Embrace the Uncertainty

By the girl next door that has no other choice

What is absolutely certain is the previous chapters of this story. What is absolutely certain is that I don’t like the previous chapters. Maybe the uncertainty of what’s going to happen next is good….that’s what I’m hoping for.

As much as I’m seeing the truth, the right way, the seemingly obviously wrong things done to me. This is in my nature. My nature is to do what’s right, seek fairness, do to others as I want done to me.

The previous chapters are filled with what’s in the nature of that type of person. The scavenger, the stealing, the lies, the wrong way. It’s in their nature to take what it can get, steal and lie if necessary, only do what help themselves and who cares what damage is done to others in the process.

We are two different kinds of people and we are both doing what’s in our nature.

I can’t predict what type of person I’ll cross paths with. However, I can learn from the types I have already crossed paths with.

I can also do whatever I can to stop these type of people from repeating my experience onto others. Like DH for example. I don’t have the resources or mental space right now to take him to small claims court….oh but I will later. In the meantime I can report DH to the BBB, the FTC and flag ads as fraud. I’m only doing my part to help others avoid loosing their time and money.

DH’s scam is easy to explain…hindsight is always 20/20 right!? DH’s scam goes like this except replace shirt with my App: I gave DH a shirt to repair and put a button on. DH repairs and puts the button on. DH took a picture and video of this repair and button application and sends it to me. Having seen the work, I pay DH for the work. DH then removes the button and repair, returns the shirt in exactly the same condition as when I gave it to him. DH keeps my money saying that he did in fact do the work, I saw pictures and videos…..fucker.

JA’s is a longer process and rightfully so because it’s way worse than what DH did and a lot longer explanation to go along with it. The next step in the lengthy lawsuit is a deposition. I looked it up. It’s an interview under oath where each side can ask any question they want. Our goal with this deposition is to gather information for the trial but also to get the information on the components. Where did these things come from, what are the manufacturer part numbers, etc.

In my current condition, I don’t know where the electrical components come from, what their manufacturer part number is, or who manufactured custom parts. Without this information I have no way of knowing if the manufacturer of custom parts is up to minimum safety standard practices as to materials used and their facility. I have no way of knowing what the non custom parts data sheet, specification, limitations etc. Long story short, the liability risk of using parts that I don’t know anything about is too high.

This scenario has sent professional companies and my amazing new engineer into a tail spin wanting to run like heck for the hills away from this product entirely. I totally understand. I always knew I needed the information. I asked repeatedly over the years with no luck. JA would say that he’d give me a complete list once it’s all done. Now that I have UL, a Company and a professional individual all saying the same thing, we are now going to do the deposition to extract this information. In the meantime I’m at a stand still again. There’s no sense in assembling units if it’s determined one or more parts needs to be replaced. Then I’d have to disassemble…blah blah blah.

So what is the good news right now? Don’t stop until you’re proud. That’s what I tell myself. I’m way past the what if. I’m doing the what if. I don’t want to look back at what I’ve done and not be proud of it. Well, I’m not proud of it just yet so I’m not stopping. Even though I am now overdrawn in my bank account, I may have to replace tens of thousands of dollars in parts that I can’t afford to do, there’s no real answers just yet. I just know my product is awesome and will more than prevail. The only way it won’t is if I stop.

I started working with a local product development company. They manage product development, production and everything in between. I figure if they don’t see a way then there isn’t a way without starting all over. This company is optimistic on finding a way to use some or all of the components I currently have in my dining room. The easy part is the second production. That’ll be handled professionally and appropriately because that’s what they do. The challenge is to reduce liability risk with what I have by trying to find enough information about them. I’m clinging to them being on the optimistic side of things. Please oh please say I don’t have to start all over.

I also started working with a unicorn off of UpWork. This freelance app developer has solved 90% of the issues in about a week. I know for sure because unlike DH who wouldn’t do a test flight, I have been able to use the app on my own phone in a test flight mode. We are rapidly working through glitches and are really close to having it done enough for launch. The rest of the work to be done can be on second production level.

There is a small but oh so fancy beauty supply store that has been morally supporting me and my product for several months now. This beauty supply store is focused on estheticians unlike most stores that are mostly hair and nails. The owner who is one of the sweetest kindest people I’ve met invited me down to be the featured guest at her anniversary event. Delighted I thought I’d go and at least show in person how nice looking my warmer is. I did much better than that. With hours to spare, unicorn app developer had my app working enough to demo, the color skin samples arrived from China. I was able to not only show my product, but I was able to show the entire product line and all of the functions. The reception from my target audience was amazing. 50% of the people that showed up for the event purchased a preorder. Even the one who gave me the toughest time about preorder with no set ship date ended up buying one and said she’d promote.

Next month I’ll be attending a big trade show. Another amazing business woman graciously invited me to the trade show to be with her in her booth free of charge. Say what!? That’s not only amazing but so beneficial. I get to be associated with a known brand which ads validity to my brand. I get to be there on my kind of budget right now which is free. Hopefully I can repeat what happened at the beauty supply store to some degree with regards to preorders.

With some positive direction happening with the product at this point, my mood is definitely been better. The ability to enjoy some summer fun and new experiences are happening now. My new neighbors have taught me all about crab fishing. I love crab, but it’s so expensive I never buy it especially now. Having no desire to have a boat, nor do I have the means to have one I rigged up a kayak to go out crabbing on my own. It’s a lot of work especially pulling up the crab pot and then up out of the water onto the kayak is all serious ab work to not dump myself into the water. True hunter gatherer experience. Human powered kayak, I have to kill and clean them, cook them and then enjoy fresh crab for free.

By no means does this indicate any less intention crucifying JA in the court system. Oh no, that is still happening. And when I win that judgment I still won’t go away. Not all for revenge, some yes, but not all. I want to ensure they can’t continue to do this to other people like I know has happened and is still happening. It has to stop. He has to be stopped.