Stop blowing unicorn dust
By the girl next door tired of it
Reality. There is no guarantee. There is no amount of effort you can put forth that guarantees a favorable outcome. Most of us see the fraction of a percentage of people who actually realize their dream and it’s built on hard work and dedication. So we think that’s all we have to do. Wrong, it’s not a guarantee and we all need to stop living in this dream land. Those people who did realize their dreams truly deeply madly and desperately did put everything they had into their dream. Guess what they had the same guarantee as the rest of us…..none. I can’t explain why, all I can say is that it’s the exception not the rule.
We need it. We don’t need it. Media. Yeah it can completely change your world for the better. You, your brand, your dream can be a success overnight. This isn’t a dig on that. That’s amazing! Those fortunate enough to have that in their corner are the lucky ones. Their path isn’t easier. Not many of us get to experience that. I certainly haven’t. Almost, no I’m going to say it 100% of those that get to experience that, also experience the bad side of that. Brutal. Through no fault of their own, through circumstances outside of their control or just being a human being that isn’t perfect it all turns on you. We all still use Media…regardless of the guarantee…yes the guarantee that it can and will destroy you….someday.
I remember when I competitively rode horses. I started off with zero experience. The horse my mom could afford had equal amount of experience. Zero. Numia grew up in a pasture with cows. She had never had a bit in her mouth or a saddle on her back. We learned together. Our first horse show was a disaster. While other horses were calmly walking around the arena, Numia and I were sprinting out of control and tears streamed down my face.
Over time, Numia and I grew to a winning team. She introduced my mom to showing while I graduated to another stubborn horse that no one wanted. Sugar. She was stunning. Dark grey dapple paint. Any stunning different horse in the arena stands out, which means any mis-step stands out too. What I learned through showing Sugar was that the more stunning, different and eye catching you appear to be, the easier it is to see the faults. No this is not the turning point in my glowing success story, did you not read the title?
At that age, I could have put myself into a lot of troublesome situations. I’m thankful for my mom giving me the outlet of horses. She couldn’t afford it, but made it happen somehow. The lessons that came out of that have stuck with me. I thought I’d be a corporate maven, corner office, mercedes benz, fancy clothes and boyfriend. I got all of those things through hard work and dedication. Isn’t that all it takes? Turns out it achieved those things…just things, but it turns out that“it” wasn’t for me.
Is anyone seeing where this story is going? Did you read the title? Probably not. Most people skim over, summarize and only blow past an instagram worthy image in haste….did it catch your attention? Did that image INSPIRE you? Jeeeze Ummm Peete folks, why does it take some one-upping photo to put you on the radar? We are all … ok most of us are doing everything we can to realize our dreams. We do that in different ways because they are different dreams. Hence the human race.
I will not attend another seminar, group meet up, networking event, TED Talks, or anything of the like that blows unicorn dust up my butt. 99.9% of the time these things highlight all of the success stories. Human behavior is to shine a light on the good stuff. It’s encouraging yes, that someone has had success. It’s something to aspire to yes. It’s a pipe dream to think we ALL can achieve this. The simple truth is that most of us aren’t willing to actually put the amount of effort, sacrifice and ultimately loose YOURSELF to achieve “IT”. Even those who are willing to do all of those things are not guaranteed anything but a fucking hard, rough and demoralizing path to get there. Wherever “there” is.
So if the majority is not the success story, which so far I am not even though I put everything into this project. Even though I have worked three jobs at times to make ends meet. Even though I’ve sacrificed my life savings and sold my first home purchase and my retirement savings. Even though I’ve sacrificed a social life, a love life and anything else that my peers seem to have. If most of us end up like me, why aren’t more of US up there talking and helping each other. I have a ton of bad stuff yes, but it could help someone else avoid that bad stuff. We should all face the reality which may help some make wiser decisions. Who knows it may help some dreamers stay the course with their day job, stay being a contributor to society instead of blaming society, while chasing their dream on the side. WHAAAAT!? Yes, I said what no one wants to say. It is not a god given right to anything, we are all in the same world, we are all trying to buy milk and put a roof over our heads. Just showing up isn’t enough and it’s certainly not a guarantee.
I’m done blowing unicorn dust up other peoples butts. Period. End of Story.